I Died the Day I was Born.

Loss and Grief are the fundamental experiences of adoption.

The study of birth and death as existential transitions, comparing and contrasting these two life events from a ritual and embodied perspective, can reveal novel insights into spirituality.

Firstly the importance of studying birth and death from an embodied, ritualized and symbolic perspective relates to several observations. However, entering the world, as well as saying farewell to loved ones, is not a linear transition.

Secondly, both life transitions are related to spiritual and existential questioning, revealing what matters to us.

Thirdly, rituals and embodied practices — varying from quotidian storytelling, performances, meditation and beautification practices to initiation rites and funerals — are grounded in the body, the senses and material culture.

Gaining insights into the significance of embodiment, the physical and material dimension of spirituality has been underdeveloped in modern literature, particularly from an infant separation perspective.

Fourthly, because of changing religious and cultural contexts, such as secularization, medicalization, migration and globalization, the way we frame and give meaning to birth and death are changing especially surrounding extreme trauma.

Secure and stable relationships are the foundation for healthy emotional development and subsequent secure and stable relationships. Trauma ­related experiences such as adoption (particularly in childhood), undermine attachments, thereby creating a cycle of further trauma, intrapsychic distress and alienation from sources of support that can ultimately disable and fall short of the intention of said secure and stable relationships. The trauma suffered is just too greater a price for any life to pay.

Adoption is the death of self that has been torn in two. Your soul shatters as the two divisions continue on to their respective paths. One is lost to the abysm where that halflife becomes asphyxiated. This half…

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